Have you ever heard this phrase “You should be proactive in your life”?
If you understand what it is meant by “being proactive” then you should easily understand the essence of this article. If you haven’t heard something like being proactive then read some few lines very carefully to first understand the concept of being proactive..
In simple words “Being proactive” means thinking ahead and respond with your own conscious choice to a particular situation of your life.
We all have grown up in different circumstances and events which has lead us to our present personality. Most often, we take decisions based upon our past experiences in our life. Many a times, we react to a situation whether it is good or bad within a fraction of a second. You can easily relate this situation, when someone has said something in anger which you don’t like to hear and you have also reacted sharply including some words which have the ability hurt that person, even with greater magnitude. If you can recall one such situation, you can easily feel the feelings right now, which you had then. In most cases, we regret what we said but you also know that the impulse was so strong that you couldn’t able to control your emotions.
Now what does this mean by being proactive…
You are human….You have a unique quality of thinking. No animal have this ability.
Give a try to this experiment, whenever you encounter this situation again.
Come to an instant where you need to give a response. Can you now give a pause of few seconds before giving any response? Yes! you can….And I can bet you that your new response after that pause will be much more beneficial for your inner-self as well as to whom you are going to give this response.
Now the question comes….What you should actually do in those few seconds before giving any response?
I can say…a very good question.
Visualize yourself …that you have already given a response to other person and that person is now embarrassed, what he has just said to you.. in anger. Also visualize that you are happy to give that calculated response because that has given you the option to express yourself as well as confidence about yourself that you have control over you.
What is the conclusion…..?
Don’t react ….Visualize….Then respond.
This simple formula have the ability to change your entire life. Understand that you are special creature in this world…Hand crafted by almighty God (Or whomsoever you believe) …Who have also crafted Jesus, Buddha, Krishna or even Gandhi. God was not at all biased in giving powers to you or to those great people of history.
Now, as you know that you have the ability…Just go and use this power of acting responsibly in all the situations of you life. Whether that situation is related to handle a person who is in anger or when you are doing a business deal. The formula is same….
1. Don’t react…2. Visualize yourself (What you want out of this situation)….3. Respond (Responsibility).
Thanks you for reading this long article….But I also know many of you will not do anything…I request you to give a try to this concept at least for a week and decide to continue or reject after that.
To learn more about Pro activeness in detail, I highly recommend to read Steve Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”